I’m not sure why. Men have a great eye and certainly know how to photograph. I mean, if anyone can appreciate a woman it’s a man, right? However, when it comes to boudoir photography, I had only looked into female photographers, thinking “this is a very private matter. This is between me and my loved one. I don’t want to show up like this in front of a man” It didn’t even occur to me.

Then I saw Marco’s work. I saw the way he photographed women with an extra layer of sensuality. There was something deeper in his photographs. He wasn’t only capturing the erotic nature, but the intimate nature of boudoir photography. But he was able to capture eroticism as well. This he did in pictures that were both revealing and explicit and less revealing. It wasn’t so much about the subject matter as his artistic lens.

In order for a woman to relax at a boudoir shoot, she has to feel safe with the person she’s working with. When I met with Marco, I came in with my antennas up. “Who would this person be? Who is this that I would be posing for and finding myself? And how would I feel comfortable to do so? What I noticed is that he was a gentleman. His boundaries were good. His emotional and social boundaries were good. He was pleasant and friendly. Most of all, he was professional. Everything was done in a timely way and with great transparency. All of the pieces of the way that he worked with me as a customer added to the sense of safety. From his website, to setting up the appointment, to confirming the appointment, and to the in-person meeting ahead of time.

At the actual shoot, I really appreciated the space that he gave me, to freedom that he gave me, as well as the physical space. I cannot stress enough how critical it is to have good boundaries when working with women. A woman who is going to pose before a man needs to feel that she is, in a sense, posing for herself. She needs to be able to find herself within herself. And that’s where the sensuality lies. The minute she feels that she’s posing for a man, which is the minute his boundaries are not good and his energy, sexual or otherwise, leaks onto her, she’s then in a compromised position and no longer feels open and free to be her most expressed self.

When the pictures finally came back, I couldn’t believe it. I LOVED them. It’s strange to say that they made me so happy. I had never seen myself like this! He captured a part of me that I can now go back to again and again in the privacy of my own home. Part of my own sensuality that I knew was there, but never had the chance to express.

In a sense, this was the greatest gift for me. I feel more beautiful, more confident, more expressed, and more bold. It erased a piece of inner shame that so many women carry around. And I know that expressing this side of myself in front of a man is what created this confidence. If it had been with a woman, it would’ve been a different experience. Probably a great one, as well, but completely different,

If I thought all this was good, the real kicker was showing the pictures to my husband. He looked at me as if to say, “who are you?” And he just kept saying, “I am so lucky!” The next day he texted me, “you are one crazy girl.” It brought a freshness to our relationship. And where that goes, I don’t think I’ll write about in this article, but I know I’ll definitely be enjoying it,

Working with a male photographer is not for everyone, it’s certainly not for someone who’s early in their processing of sexual trauma or similar issues. But if you do feel comfortable, and you want the experience of being your most expressed, confident self - kind of a playground to see who you can be, I would recommend going not just to anyone but to Marco, His work is incredible. He’s a true gentleman, and his photographs are award-winning.

I Never Thought I Would Go To a Male Boudoir Photographer… Period.

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